ANGER … AND APPLE PIE?

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“ANGER SEEN AS AMERICAN AS APPLE PIE”? … Am I reading those headlines in the Florida Times Union Newspaper correctly?  WOW … what a statement!   Momma … Baseball/football … Apple Pie … Anger … ALL IN THE SAME MIX?   Strange … BUT true!

While anger has been an issue as old as time itself … I do think it is more prevalent today … and not just in our American culture.   I am not sure of everything that contributes to the increase in anger BUT I think is has been slow at building up over the years … and yet … seems to be here to stay.

Personally I think it is a byproduct of the “Hippie” era … and though I was a “hippie” myself … we laid the foundation for much of the negative consequences we are experiencing today.  True … there needed to be “change” in the 60’s … which is why we challenged the “establishment” and … we saw some good changes … BUT …  I think we took it the extreme and sowed the seeds for an “entitlement driven” mentality which we are experiencing today.  One of our main beliefs we pursued was …  “If it feels good than you have a right to pursue it” and “Don’t  worry about the consequences of your choices”.

In my counseling, when I try to help my clients understand human behavior, I have often referred to an “iceberg”.  The tip of the ice berg, which represents only a small part of our life, is our “behavior” (good or bad).  While we feel it is our “behavior” which is the problem and therefore we work hard focusing on how to change my behavior … the “tip of the iceberg” is never the real problem.   BELOW the “waterline” in our lives are thoughts and emotions which are responsible for driving our behavior … AND … even deeper than that is a core “belief system” which we have developed over the years that governs our thoughts and emotions and therefore our behavior.

Over fifty years ago the “revolutionary changes” of the 60’s instilled some core beliefs in our minds which today are challenging our thinking.  We are indeed a pleasure seeking /entitlement driven people and because of that we have set ourselves up for serious anger issues when we don’t get what we want.

Is there a solution to this dilemma we find ourselves in today?   I believe there is … BUT it will not come easy and it will only take place with some sacrifice, hard work, and personal discipline … which are all foreign qualities to us today.

SO … I would have to agree … It looks like ANGER is here to stay … at least for a while.  AND … YES … it HAS BECOME A NORMAL PART OF OUR AMERICAN CULTURE … as much a part as softball/football … momma … and apple pie.

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Bill Nichols, is a Board Certified Christian Counselor, a Certified Professional Life Coach, a Certified Behavioral Counselor, a Certified Anger Management Professional and a member of NAMA – The National Anger Management Association. He has Certificates in “Sexual Addictions Counseling”, “Addictions and Recovery” and “Treating Compulsive Sexual Behavior”. He holds a Master of Religious Arts in Christian Counseling Degree, a Bachelor of Biblical Studies Degree and is a member of the AACC – American Association of Christian Counselors Bill has over twenty-five years’ experience in pastoral and professional Life Coaching & Counseling. He has organized and facilitated Anger Management Classes and directed Addictions Programs at various counseling centers in the Jacksonville area including The Salvation Army Adult Rehabilitation Center and The City Rescue Mission. Mr. Nichols has attended five different colleges and is a graduate of Nazarene Bible College in Colorado Springs, CO, International College of Bible Theology in Sikeston, MO and Logos Graduate School in Jacksonville, FL.
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