“GIVE and TAKE”

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MANILA! … She is referred to as “The Pearl of the Orient”.   There are 22.5 million people in the “Greater Manila Area” … that’s more than the New York Area.   Manila ranks as the 5th largest metropolis in the world ( http://www.newgeography.com/content/002808-world-urban-areas-population-and-density-a-2012-update ) .

This is a wonderful city which I grow to love more and more every day.  One of the amazing things here is the transportation.  There are no speed limits – no (or very few) traffic lights … no stop signs.  People seem to stay, for the most part, on the right side of the road.  They do drive very close to each other (literally inches) & there are a lot of horns honking … which is not out of anger but rather a form of communication & everyone seems to remain quite calm.  The interesting thing is that in the year that I lived there, traveling throughout the city at least 3-4 days a week, I did not witness one accident.   In the city I came from in the United States (population of 800 thousand) there was rarely a day went by that I wouldn’t witness at least one accident.

One day I asked my driver about this phenomenon and he simply replied “It’s called Give & Take”.   “Give and Take” … I have heard that term many times in America but I think we have forgotten what that means.

The dictionary defines “Give & Take” and “The practice of making mutual concessions”.   WOW … what an awesome practice which, I think, somewhere in our culture we have forgotten.   Whether its traffic … work … relationships … or life in general … I think we have lost that art of “Give & Take”

In America, the greatest nation in the world, we have traffic lights, stop signs, speed limits, and many other “laws” in an attempt to regulate our behavior … AND YET … we have accident after accident.  I’m curious … is it because we have forgotten how to “Give & Take”?   We are all about “Taking” … “MY Rights” … “What do I deserve” …  My “Entitlements” … and, as a result,  our lives … our families … our society has become one big wreck.

GIVE & TAKE … it’s a simple principle!  I wonder what would happen if we all started doing that?  It begins with ME!  Am I willing to start the practice of making mutual concessions?  Learning to Give & Take … along with “communicating our needs” (honking our horn) … AND … remaining calm as the process runs its course could result in rewarding changes in our lives.

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Bill Nichols, is a Board Certified Christian Counselor, a Certified Professional Life Coach, a Certified Behavioral Counselor, a Certified Anger Management Professional and a member of NAMA – The National Anger Management Association. He has Certificates in “Sexual Addictions Counseling”, “Addictions and Recovery” and “Treating Compulsive Sexual Behavior”. He holds a Master of Religious Arts in Christian Counseling Degree, a Bachelor of Biblical Studies Degree and is a member of the AACC – American Association of Christian Counselors Bill has over twenty-five years’ experience in pastoral and professional Life Coaching & Counseling. He has organized and facilitated Anger Management Classes and directed Addictions Programs at various counseling centers in the Jacksonville area including The Salvation Army Adult Rehabilitation Center and The City Rescue Mission. Mr. Nichols has attended five different colleges and is a graduate of Nazarene Bible College in Colorado Springs, CO, International College of Bible Theology in Sikeston, MO and Logos Graduate School in Jacksonville, FL.
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